Using Time-Outs Instead Of Spanking

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Need some guidance in using time-outs instead of spankings? Try these tips.

1. Always start with ignoring. Literally ignore your child when they are whining, crying, or have been told no but refuse to accept it. Walk out the room, talk to a friend on the phone, begin a hobby—just don't entertain it. This is so hard to do, because we want to say a million things. I've learned as a parent to pick my battles.

2. Teach them how to calm themselves down. A cool way to extend time-out as a way to increase childhood development is to offer activities that help your child calm down. I place bubbles, books, a squishy toy, etc. in the time-out space we use.
This is a tool to use to decrease the heart rate. Allow deep breaths or something sensory based to allow your child's body to calm down so they are more rational. The recovery is faster!

3. Try to use the same time-out spot in the home. Make sure it is not the same place they sleep, so they don't associate time-out with sleeping. Make sure the spot lacks distractions and that it is safe.

4. Time the time-out. I place one minute for every year of age: so 2 years old = two minutes. Of course they may not even stay for that long. But be repetitive by physically helping them stay or putting them back in the spot.

5. Don't over talk. The punishment is placing them in time-out. No child can listen or rationalize when they are upset. Don't begin a speech about what they should have done. Simply state the reason and place them in the spot. Trust me, they will get the point.

6. Adjust for older children. Time-out for older children can simply mean taking a break to go think about their actions and repair. My 8-year-old daughter Kennedy after a few moments will apologize, because she knows she was wrong.
If I threaten a consequence—such as no company or no television—then it is exactly that. What mommy says goes. Now there is always room for compromising. I try not to argue, but if she can logically state her case, I'm always down to listen. As parents the follow through is key.

7. After you impose a consequence, start from a clean state. No holding grudges or punishing all day because of one moment. Let your child know that behavior is redeemable, and the consequence doesn't last forever.

Source:Brandy Wells
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  1. This is helpful. I'll try Time Out with our 2 year old who has suddenly become the Boss Baby.



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