Staying In An Unhappy Marriage For Your Kids?

According to a 2009 report by National Research Council and the Institute of Medicine, parental depression has been linked to children's early signs of having a "difficult" temperament and less self-worth, among other negative factors.

Have you been unhappy  for a while. It's been so long that you've forgotten what happy looks like. Some people have no idea what you're persevering.

OUTWARDLY, you two look like a happy couple. But all hides under the cover of pretense. You're unhappy, and it is obvious. Even when you think you're putting on a good show for the kids, you're not.

Even if your children can't put their finger on what's wrong with Mommy exactly, they know that their mother is not happy. And most likely, although I know you don't want to hear this, your kids see you in an unhappy marriage, especially the older children who have the outside world to compare your situation ...    

Staying in an unhappy marriage so that your children can stay happy may be completely false. If you are unhappy and for a long period of time, how do you expect your children to be isolated from your pain? Do you want your children to feel responsible for your sadness?

At one point or the other, you will begin to transfer aggression on them and believe me, they will equally taste the pill of your pain and may even end up as sadists in their own marriages.

Only if you know how costly your pretense is.

 Your marriage is bad.Counselling might just be the answer! or...

Pretending that all is well is totally wrong

The truth is;

Living each day as if nothing is wrong is unhealthy for your children.
No matter what you choose — marriage counseling, divorce, or your own individual therapy — it doesn't have to be this way. You are in charge of your destiny. Show your children that caring for yourself and your heart is important.You will not only be happy for letting go of  such pretense,but so that as time goes on, they will do the same.

Remember, you can replicate yourself in your children,so be happy for yourself first,them it spreads to the children.

You are teaching them the realities of life by so doing!
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